Is Your Inner Mean Girl Robbing You of Your Success?
3 super powered tools for turning your
inner critic into your best business partner
by Christine Arylo and Amy Ahlers,
co-founders of Inner Mean Girl Reform School
When you made the decision to start
your own business, you probably got lots of advice on how to be
successful, right? Solid advice like keep an eye on your expenses,
create a marketing plan, put yourself out there as much as possible,
But did anyone warn you that the
biggest and most likely threat your business faces is not out there
in the marketplace, but instead living and breathing inside of you?
Let us introduce you to your Inner
Critic or Inner Mean Girl as we like to call it (or Inner Bully for
all you guys out there). That negative, self-sabotaging,
self-critical voice in your head tells you big fat lies like “You’re
not good enough,” “If you try, you’ll probably fail,” or
“You’ve got to work harder if you’re ever going to make this
Your Inner Mean Girl / Inner Bully is
the slave driver, achievement junkie, doing addict, perfectionist and
wishful thinker that keeps you working like a dog, doing all the work
yourself, and spending money, time, and energy in the wrong places.
It’s the voice that makes you feel less happy and successful than
Here’s the truth; you can have the
best strategies, the most stellar product, but if you don’t
have the right mindset you will fail, and you’ll exhaust yourself
in the process! Or maybe you’ll get lucky and reach your goals but
be unable to feel successful or enjoy everything you worked so hard
for. Your Inner Mean / Bully just loves to rob you of celebrating!
The best way to keep your mindset
healthy, and your Inner Mean Girls / Bullies off your back is to know
their toxic tricks and have an antidote in your back pocket to use
when you find yourself in their grips.
After coaching entrepreneurs from all
walks of life for over 17 years combined, we’ve developed processes
that put your Inner Mean Girl and Inner Bully in their place.
Here are 3 of our favorites for
shifting your mind and securing your success!
#1 Toxic Trick. Comparison
You find yourself going crazy,
comparing yourself to every one else who is more successful, farther
along, or more together than you. Your Comparison Queen / King is
using the Inferiority Complex on you! Antidote: Compliment the
person you are comparing yourself to. Dig deep and find the
inspiration. Yes, that’s right, reach out and tell that person how
inspired you are by who they are and what they are doing. You’ll be
amazed at the new connections you’ll create!
#2 Toxic Trick. Future
You achievement junkie is filling your
head with lies like “When I hit that goal, then I’ll be happy!”
or “When I hit 6 figures (or 7 figures or more!), I can finally
relax.” Your Inner Mean Girl/Inner Bully has you running so fast to
the future that you’re too exhausted to enjoy today. Antidote:
Get grateful for what you do have and get happy in the present. When
you find your mind future tripping, stop, drop and do 10 gratitude
statements. Write or say aloud what you appreciate about today.
Notice how you can enjoy the moment!
#3 Toxic Trick. Unrealistic
You’ve just started your day and you
already have a To-Do List a mile long that you are counting on
getting done today. Deep down you know it’s humanly impossible to
accomplish them all. But your doing addict has got you convinced that
you can get through the list. So you work like an energizer bunny
gone mad all day, and come 8pm you’ve not accomplished half of what
you set out to. You set yourself up to fail, and now you beat
yourself up with the “I’m a loser” lie. Antidote: Take a
pause and get real. When you feel yourself moving into overdrive to
get it all done, pause, take a deep breath and decide on the 3 things
that are most important for you to complete today. In your mind, move
the rest to another day. Get real and honest with how much is
reasonable for you to do today. With only those 3 things on your
mind, you’re guaranteed to set yourself up for success, and find
time to have a personal life too!
Here’s the truth – you have a
one-of-a-kind gift to give the world through your great work. And if
you don’t take care of yourself, if you try to do it all alone, and
if you don’t enjoy the process along the way, you will never be
able to reach your full potential.
We invite you to try these antidotes
PLUS get started on transforming your own Inner Mean Girl.
Join us on September 24th
for our Inner Mean Girl Reform School free open house call we’re
hosting called Stop the Critical Voice in
Your Head from Being So Hard On You… & Start Feeling Truly
Successful & Happy, Now! You’ll learn the three
secrets to reforming your Inner Mean Girl or Inner Bully!
CLICK here to register
About Christine Arylo and Amy Ahlers
Christine Arylo, popular author of
Choosing ME before WE, and Amy Ahlers, celebrated author of
Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves, have taken a stand for
people, especially women, everywhere to say NO! to being so hard on
themselves. They are co-founders of Inner Mean Girl Reform School,
a series of programs that give people tools to transform their
self-sabotaging patterns into new self-empowering habits. They’ve
successfully coached thousands of people around the world –
including themselves – to take charge of their inner critics once
and for all.
start reforming your Inner Mean Girl / Bully now!
Great article and so true! The call sounds great…I look forward to joining. Another one of my favorite authors on this topic is Renee Trudeau. I loved this newsletter: http://www.reneetrudeau.com/htmlemail/LifeBalanceNewsLoveTheOneYoureWith.html