The Self-Care Morning Practice That Has Saved My Life
GET WHAT YOU NEED IN LESS THAN 3 MINUTES A DAY EVERYDAY!
Use this self-care super power tool EVERY morning as your new DAILY SELF CARE practice (even if you have 5 kids and 12 goats… you still have time for this).
This video, which I originally created for The Love Club, walks you through how this simple but mighty process works. The key is to do this daily practice EVERY MORNING. It takes less than 3 minutes but it will make all the difference in your day and life. The full instructions are below.
This self-love practice is one that I created a few years ago for myself because I was sick and tired of getting sick and tired! It is so simple, yet it revolutionized my life. Because of this practice – which takes me less than 3 minutes every morning – I hardly ever get exhausted. I rarely get sick.
I know almost immediately when I am over-giving and need to adjust. And my energy stays vibrant and full – I actually produce more than I ever have, without having to drain or sacrifice my own self-care. This is because this practice makes sure I never give more than I have to give, and I catch myself before I hit the exhausted, drained place, which takes time, money and energy to recover from.
I define self-care as making sure you have what you need on all levels – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. The trouble is that most of us don’t know what we need, so we don’t know how to ask for it or how to get it. Think about it… when was the last time you asked yourself what you needed?
THREE STEP SELF-CARE MORNING DAILY PRACTICE
STEP ONE: Love Start Your Day. My good friend Kristine Carlson, author of the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff series for women, always says, ‘How you start your day is how you live your day”.
So get rid of the alarm clock and stop jumping out of bed in a rush before pausing to breathe and check in with yourself. If you start your day in alarm, you start your day contracted and blocked off, you start in panic and that is “no bueno.”
The best way to awake is naturally, but if you have to have something wake you up, choose an heart opening ring tone on your phone or replace your alarm clock with a CD player that plays loving music.
STEP TWO: Check Your Energy Tank. Self care rule #1 and #2 – Always keep your energy tank at least half full. And never serve from your reserves. This means you have to know where your energy tank is – every morning. Close your eyes, put your hand on your belly, and ask your Inner Wisdom “How full is my energy tank today?” and ask for a number between 0 and 100 – with 100 being totally full and 0 being empty.
The first number that comes is THE number, no cheating. If you are below 50, you are serving from your reserves, and really you have no business giving anything to anyone else because you don’t have enough for yourself. Here’s the scale – live by it:
STEP THREE: Ask Your Inner Wisdom What You Need + Make Sure You Receive it That Day, No Matter What! After you get your energy tank number, you want to now ask your Inner Wisdom the most important question you will likely ask all day – “What do I need to receive today?” or just simply “What do I need today?”
To get to your Inner Wisdom’s sage council, you keep your eyes closed, put your hand on your heart, take a deep breath, and ask the question to yourself. Keep breathing until the answer comes. It may come in a word ,a sound, a picture, or a knowing. Whatever it says, you MUST make sure you receive that today.
It can often be something simple like love, hugs, peace, a nap, a walk, a yoga class – it’s the simple but little things that make self-care happen and keep your energy tanks full. You don’t need to take off to Tahiti for 7 days or hire a personal chef to replenish. Whatever it tells you, listen, act and remember this all day long.
And if you haven’t been talking to your Inner Wisdom, it may at first not answer at all. That’s okay. Just make something up as your answer – something you want to receive that day. As you begin to show up for yourself, your Inner Wisdom will eventually start showing up for you.
THEN THROUGHOUT THE DAY… it’s your job as your own best friend to make sure that you RECEIVE what you need. In the moments you feel cranky, crabby, stressed, pressured, drained, tired, mad, guilty, etc, remember what you need to receive and give it to yourself.