3 Rules of LOVE — Make sure you attract more love, not less, into your life.
As a culture and as human beings, we spend just about as
much time talking about and thinking about our relationships, and our
relationship status as we do about how we are going to pay our bills and lose 5
lbs. Millions of dollars, maybe even trillions of dollars, are spent trying to
find the one, make the one we have better, and decide if the one we have is
really the one we want!
In all of these questions about our ‘relationships’ we often
get mixed up and lose sight of what we are really after – LOVE. So we continue
to live with a craving that never gets satisfied – we are hungry for love, but
we are feeding ourselves the wrong food. It’s not your fault, your mind has
gotten all confused because of the misunderstandings about love that run
rampant in our society. Today we take a step towards getting your mind and your
life in alignment with the truth about love by empowering you with three of the
most powerful rules of love and daring acts that will help you employ them –
which when applied will not only give you the relationships you want, but more
importantly the love that you need.
Love Rule #1: Focus on Love not Relationships.
There is a big misunderstanding that love and
relationships are the same thing – while they are related, they are not the
same. Most of us walk around saying or thinking we want a ‘relationship’ when
in reality what we really need and desire is more love, in one of its many forms
– connection, friendship, intimacy, compassion, companionship, affection,
acknowledgement, and the list goes on. Change your focus to cultivating love
and to generating the energy of that love you desire in your life instead of on
finding or fixing a relationship and you’ll find that you have more love and
better relationships as a result.
Daring Act of Love: Ask for what you really want – LOVE. If you are single, stop saying “I
want a relationship.” Start being specific about the love energy you want to
pull in, “I am so ready to receive love from an awesome, compassionate, loving
life partner” or “I am so ready to receive love from a sexy, sweet lover and
companion.” If you are in relationship and desire more, be specific about what
you desire to receive from this person, and be willing to give it too, “I’d
love to receive more affection and intimacy” or “I’d love to receive more
companionship and closeness.” Notice how saying these words invokes the energy
of the L-O-V-E right away! Which leads to #2.
Love Rule #2: Every relationship starts with the
relationship you have with yourself.
so you’ve probably heard this one but are you really living it? I
haven’t met a person yet who couldn’t stand to improve the relationship that
they have with themselves. And if something isn’t working for you in getting
the love you desire from out there, then you need to find what’s first not
working with the love and relationship you have with yourself.
Daring Act of Love: Take Yourself Out On A
Romantic Date, Ask Yourself What You Really Need, And Listen. When’s the last time you had a heart to heart with
yourself. How long would you put up with a person you were dating or married to
if they weren’t having deep and personal conversations with you – hopefully not
very long! Create intimacy with yourself by spending the evening journaling on
the question “What do I really need right now? To feel loved? To be happy? To
be healthy? To feel safe and secure? To feel seen?” Then after you get all that
information from yourself, make a promise to yourself to make sure you receive
the love you need.
Love Rule #3:
Love Always Creates More Love.
getting the love you need? Then BE LOVE. The energy you feel inside and that
you put out there into the world comes back to you – simple Law of
Daring Act of Love:
Be a Love Generator and make love for yourself. Don’t wait to receive love from someone else – you
have the power to create it right now for yourself. Here’s how – do a Self Love
Soak every morning! Before you get out of bed, close your eyes, curl up in a
loving ball, hug yourself, and tell yourself, “Your Name, I love you.” Keep
saying these love words until you generate love, until you feel that warm
tingly feeling of love in your body. Even if it’s just a little bit at first,
keep generating love this way until it comes naturally and in big waves. Fake
it til you make it – make love that is!
And here’s a bonus rule – Be unafraid to admit
you need love – we all do. If you fear
people thinking you are weak for needing love, then you weaken your ability to
receive it. Be daring – desire love, need
And if you’re ready to take action to create SUPER LOVING relationships now — consider yourself invited to join me for this 40-day self love practice … go here to check it out.