Stop OverDoing and Start Receiving More
SELF LOVE DARE:
CHOOSE ONE BLOCK TO RECEIVING & CHOOSE TO RELEASE IT
notice how this block shows up in your life, and when it shows up, instead of shutting the self love down, open up and RECEIVE. Relax. Open. Nurture. Let your guard down. Open yourself and your heart to love.
1. Full of the Future: Chasing the Carrot Syndrome. Always living for the day I will be X. Happy, thin, in love, etc. You are always in the future. You are future focused, not present focused. It’s like being at the best 4th of July Fireworks, and thinking about your Christmas presents – you miss the fireworks, and feel unfulfilled.
2. Forcing: Rely totally on your man powers to make it happen, instead of your feminine super powers. You control. Pushing Pushing out so there is no space for anything to come in. You are always moving and doing, because you are used to pushing. And when you are always pushing there is no space for anything to come in. This is like the woman who goes out search for a man, instead of putting out the vibration for him to come into her life. She has a plan, a strategy, she’s on the dating sites, she uses a lot of her own energy to make it happen. She doesn’t listen to her intuition or have any sense that there are things outside of her control. Now compare that to Sophia Loren, who uses her feminine power to the millionth degree. She just stands there, vibrates off energy, and attracts men to her, little effort, no sweat… even at the age she is today! Talk about Aphrodite energy.
3. Over-Doing. Energizer Bunny Syndrome. Cannot Turn Yourself Off. You are always going going doing doing so again there is NO space for anything to come in. And you are the one doing it all, till you drop. Ex. You have a mind that always moves. You can’t relax. In fact relaxing makes you twitch. You don’t know how to “be”, and maybe even see the value in ‘Being’, after all how much can you really get done if you are being? (hint, alot!). You may also be the type of person who thinks they can’t meditate. You are addicted to doing.
4. Over focus and thinking on scarcity, limitation, and not enoughness. Disconnected from Source. There is an abundant universe that wants to give you many many gifts. When you think you have to do it all on your own, when you don’t have a daily practice where you connect to source, when you don’t operate on faith, or are over attached to outcomes, you are out of the flow, and you are not receiving all you could. When you cut the flow off you have to work way harder.
5. Over-responsibility. Atlas Syndrome. You take everything on because you can do so much but then you end up with the entire world on your shoulders. You see something that needs to be done, so you do it. You volunteer even though you are already busy. You overcommit and then stress out because you have so much to do (although you always get it done.) Often, you think you are the only one that can do it right. You pride yourself in your maniac multi-tasking abilities. And then you get mad and burnout, because you know what, carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders is too heavy, even for you.
6. Over Care. Master of the Universe Complex. You try to control it all. Organizing it. Covering all the possibilities. You don’t let anything fall through the cracks, and you’ll work extra long and hard to make sure everything nothing can go wrong. Trust, Surrender, Accept, are not words you live by. You may be prone to stuffing your feelings… don’t have time to fall apart. You would rather know exactly what is going to happen, plan for all possibilities. You really aren’t into allowing things to happen. Stepping into the unknown is not your favorite thing to do.
7. Over-Protected. Closed Heart – to yourself or to others. Your heart isn’t open fully to give or receive love. You’ve built Fort Knox around your heart. You’ve learned to protect yourself. Vulnerability is not your strength and you aren’t even sure if you would want it to be. No one, not even you, gets totally into the softest parts of you. And when it comes to loving yourself, lets just say that if people could see how mean you are to yourself, they would call the authorities.
I cannot choose one, I do them all! This is so timely for me.
I WILL CHOOSE. Maybe one a week! I recently had blood work done and found I might have hypothyroidism. No big deal, no symptoms yet. But, as I am one that everyone relies on, including my husband who had a stroke…for the first time, in, I cannot remember when, he actually is concerned. He keeps asking me how I am feeling. It makes me sad that I have to have something go “wrong” to have him ask…So I will begin receiving…NOW!
i really enjoyed your video, i almost didn’t even look at it. but i opened it anyway today… OH an i am so glad i did.. Wow I to am a recovering OAJ.. i am learning to receive and noticed that i got this from my MOM the wow of my life… i would love to post the video and link to your blog on my wall on facebook and my blog… if this ok…. i think that there are so many women that really need to see this.. you are a great speaker and tool to help move this forward… i very much appreciate hearing this today..
thank you so much
I LOVE how you think and write.
Thank you Kristine for remembering me to be open for receiving…not be still DOING WOMAN..to create space for it, empty place..not full of staff…GREAT IDEAS…I am starting to DO IT from THIS MOMENT.
All the best for you,
Thank you for reminding me to love myself and just how worthy I truly am.
Thank you for being opened and sharing with us.
When I was watching your video and listening to your words, something came to me. As the friend of yours said that being sick allowed her time to relax and nurture herself. As a woman dealing with autoimmune issues I have stopped to ask myself what is the opposite of the self attacking the self…yes, the self loving self. It seems that there are many women especially (men as well) dealing with auto immune issues these days. Could this be due to us so much desiring to be so deeply nurtured and cared for that we create such a way for that to happen….through the illness..? Hmm….now to heal this situation and to find that nurturing and care in a more positive way:) Thanks for the video and I love that picture behind you!
This is a GREAT post Christine! Thank you for the reminders. It’s amazing when I think I’ve left these traits behind… I’m learning that … oh here they are again…. at another spot on the spiral. and being reminded that we are on a journey, and this post has helped remind me of where I was, where I am and where I want to grow. much thanks. and the picture behind you is beautiful! If I had to guess, it looks like the beautiful art of Shiloh Sophia.